my mind operates/functions w/ an analytical driving force. i think in multi-layers & the paths in which something is solved or created.
in doing computer networks, crypto, & organizing, this gift of being able to "analyze" things/issues/matters is a good thing.
however, my mind doesn't appear to have a toggle switch to turn off "analyzing" when it comes to "simpler" things/decisions in life. i'm not one to give quick solutions or answers when someone asks me. i need to look @ all the angles & make my decision from a pros/cons perspective.
in my attempt to make "simple" decisions, i still find myself "over-analyzing" them. for example, mindy might ask me what i'd like to eat. this is PURE agony for me, as i think on all the possible meals (& their combos) & wanting to include others (my family) in the decision, & so on & so forth. all mindy did was ask "ME" what i'd like to eat. it's a very easy (theoretically) question & should result in a "simple" answer. as i walk myself & whoever is listening to me through the meal possibilities, they all go brain-dead on me & breath through their mouths.
so, given that it's me that has the difficulty answering "simple" questions, i'm going to start asking for my friends' input on simple things, so i can practically learn how to make simple decisions & not make such a big deal about them. basically, i'm asking for your help w/ this.
scenario # 1
i'm doing something that is good for me. i haven't had much time (longevity) in doing this good thing (4 mos.). in my strong desire to stick w/ this good thing, i make a verbal commitment to do this good thing (exclusively) until i see that i'm "solid" in doing this good thing. another good thing enters into the picture. i have always really enjoyed doing this long-time good thing, but haven't found the time to spend doing this long-time good thing. i'm asked if i'm interested in doing it for a few months. i really like this good thing & really like doing the new good thing. in my mind it might be hard to do both good things @ the same time & may cause some problems/risks. it also might not be a big deal to do both. each good thing offers something different & beneficial. is this a do one & not the other scenario, or is it a do both scenario? does the verbal agreement to friend on the new good thing fall into the: let your yes be yes, & your no be no- arena. is it a: a man is only as good as his word- arena?
given what i've shared on this scenario- what's your "gut/first reaction" to it? we can work out the details as questions arise. & maybe, just maybe, i've already thought to much about this by asking all of your opinions. don't know?
p.s. maybe the word "basic" may be more appropriate to put in place of the word "simple", so it doesn't give the impression that i'm referring to intelligence levels (because i'm not).
Wednesday, November 16
scenario # 1 (need your input for my output)
Posted by JayBird at 8:25 AM
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Your question was a little complicated. It might be easier for me to offer an opinion if the situation was explained a little more specifically. :)
I agree with Georgia... However, if you made a commitment for a certain period of time to the NEW good thing, then at the very least I would say that you should stick with that commitment... But if you did not commit to it, then it come down to which is more important to you...
i agree that this is a bit confusung. but i will attempt to comment. in the first thing, it sounds like you made a commitment, in the second i don't see one. if you really want to do the second, do it. can you try to do both for a short time? i am sure family time comes into the equation somewhere.
...allow God's gift of "freedom" and "grace" to become permanent factors in all your equations.
Life is good!
On the "what do you want to eat" thing...I recommend you hardwire a default response...something like..."Dominos!" That way you can never go wrong.
denden-I wouldn't advise eating dominos... the plastic isn't good for your teeth... ;) I am so bad...
Go for it, Jay
thanks for all the input, so far.
the sticking point still remains as far as i can ascertain: freedom/liberty in light of verbal commitment. often we say things in the heat of the moment or just being excited about a good thing. lesson i'm still learning: don't make "in the moment/emotional/good intentioned" commitments. it's the case of "not speaking to quickly". apostle paul warned us to to say something like, "tomorrow, i'm going over there & i'm going to do this & that". do we really know? of course not. thoughts?
dude, is it possible to be any more cryptic? if you're asking do i think you should play b-ball even though you're running with den, then i say yes. if you're asking something else, then i don't know.
the sticking with your word thing is great, but sometimes everyone ends up sticking their foot in their mouth instead. this doesn't sound like a simple decision, so include the person to whom the prior commitment was made in on your thoughts and let them guide you a bit. that's my story and i'm sticking to it.
jeni...the plastic found in Domino's pizza has been thoroughly tested and is Generally Regarded As Safe for human consumption.
diga...I've already told Jbird to leave the ball at home when we go running. After 15 miles it gets really annoying.
thanks for all the input. i ended up re-visiting why i made the verbal commitment in the first place. i thought on those reasons & concluded once again- that that's the direction i'm going right now. not that the long-time thing wasn't good, but that's not where i'm going right now. the absolute need to "solidify" the new thing through TIME must be accomplished for me. & right along-side the need to establish healthy habits, is the establishing of a friendship that is priceless.
maybe, next year i'll be more "solid" on my new thing & i'll be able to try some hoops.
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