as time goes on, mindy & i have noticed some "very" similar personality traits between me & the soupy-sue. of my 3 daughters, the soup is absolutely the most like me.
from early on there were a few things she'd do that really irritated me. here's a few to start: soup (becca) doesn't remember to use a napkin when she eats. i have been a broken record for a few years now. i still have to remind her. soup doesn't remember to brush her hair or teeth. she has to be told every time. soup likes to lay on things instead of sit on them like a little lady. she lays her clothes on the floor- never to think of them again. in her book, everything is meant to be laid on & she likes to lay around the house as long as possible. soup is incredibly sensitive & her feelings get hurt very easily. min & i discovered this when she was still in a high chair. as usual- she had put way too much food in her mouth, then sometimes would choke/gag on all the food. one day min & i, politely, told her not to each so much & to slow down. we got kind of stern w/ her, because we didn't want her to choke. she took it as a "hurtful" thing & these HUGE crocodile tears came flooding down. this was the beginning of our realization that she was a "sensitive" type.
soup has been identified as "gifted" by her teachers & just about any adult that has gotten to spend time w/ her. however, soup doesn't remember where she puts her school backpack, homework assignments, watter-bottle, or sweat-shirt. she doesn't remember what happend 5 mts. ago. soup can read & do the math of kids 3 years ahead of her. we knew something was up when i was teaching the bird how to count money & do word problems & the soup would be laying on the couch & spouting out the answers w/o having to think or use paper. this really frustrated the bird. soup was able to figure things out quicker than the bird (2 years older). the bird is very bright as well. soup has kind of a laissez-fare way about her. she never picks up her clothes, toys, or just about anything. the soup is very social & is all about people. i remember hearing a story from hillsiders that becca, on her own, would go up to people, introduce herself, & then initiate the prayer time. she was 5/6 at the time. i know adults that wouldn't do that.
well, that's just a little about the soup. it's really funny how our children can be so like us. mindy reminds me, daily, that becca is a female, jay. it's funny, cool, & even frustrating for me & becca. for mindy it's only funny, because she has to laugh about how me & soup are twins. i really understand when mindy is correcting becca on forgetting something how becca feels about it. we honestly don't remember most things & forget to do very basic things. mindy thinks we're quite hilarious.
soupy, i'm dedicated to you & who you are. a good part of you is like me & that's funny. the good news is that you're unique & not a cookie-cutter of me. i'm dedicated & devoted to fostering an environment where you feel comfortable in growing in who you are. i'll continue to remind you to do the basic things if you agree to remind me to do the same. :>) i've always seen you as a butterfly w/o a care in the world. i encourage you to keep flying around & making things prettier. you have a gift of "care/sensitivity" for people & i love that about you. keep lovin' on people, soup- people need love.
i love you, becs! we're two peas in a pod.
Monday, October 17
soupy-sue (two peas in a pod)
Posted by JayBird at 12:42 PM
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Tell me the etymology of Becca=soup and Kayla=bird.
bird: we had just brought her home from the hospital. we had bathed her & she was naked as a jaybird on our bed. she pooped all over the bed (doodie bird). also, she squawked like a bird when she wanted out of her crib.
soup: i have no idea of the origin.
you should have the girls sing you the songs i made for them w/ their nickname in them.
it seems that intelligent people tend to be a bit spacey. topher has a tendancy to be this way. he often forgets what i told ten minutes ago. his mind is always someplace else. or maybe thats just being a teenager.
there is a definite correlation between academic intelligence and the inability to remember simple things/function like a "normal" person in many regards. good to hear soup is a potential future math nerd. don't let her get discouraged by the idiots who don't think girls can do math.
If they'll sing the songs for me, perhaps I'll sing them the songs I invented for my kids about baby wipes and poopy diapers. :)
This so reminded me of my daughter number two, SJ. One day when her sister was about 14 and she was 7 I asked about their day. Oldest talked about boys and other inane subjects. When asked what she learned that day, SJ says, "When people say mean things to me I just pretend its an arrow they shot at my heart and I step aside so it won't hit me." Wow.
Yet, she loses things, misplaces, is late, unorganized, etc, etc. Did very well in school, though.
I love the nicknames you have for your daughters.
reguarding diga's comment that girls can't do math. in topher's physics 2 & calculas classes boys are the minority. i think there are 4 boys & 10 girls. it has been this way for a few years now. at least since algebra 2.
teach becca how to take care of the small stuff, giving her tools to remember.
before i get into trouble i need to comment on my comment. i know diga didn't mean girls can't do math, i was generalizing.
last year one of destiny's teachers actually told me that girls have a hard time with math. we were talking about destiny's struggles with math & that was her reason. destiny has a learning disability, maybe thats why.
so if girls are so good at math & high school math classes are full of girls, why are most high school math/science teachers men? where do the girls go?
off topic a bit, i suppose, but most high school math classes aren't full of girls. i'm glad that topher's school is the exception, but the simple fact is that by junior high girls math scores go down and boys go up. the trend continues until girls are more likely to gravitate away from math come high school electives (doesn't include algebra 2 - everyone has to take that so it doesn't show much) and college. why? a lot of reasons, but a big one would have to be teachers like the one you mentioned. if you're convinced that certain kids can't learn (and if you don't like a subject much yourself) kids are going to pick up on it.
go soup! prove 'em wrong.
now where did i leave my keys?
where's my pen @? somebody keeps takin' it. on a revealing note: i have no orientation ability built-in. meaning: i don't know how to get to most places even though i've been there numerous times. mindy has to be my navigator when we go to south reno for anything.
ooo...ooo. add me to your pod!!
welcome to our pod, frad!
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